This site is dedicated to the memory of my beautiful son, Benjamin Arabin.
Benjamin James Arabin was born in Boston in the United Kingdom on 23 January 1992.
His official date of death is 29 November 2014 but the Benjamin that I knew died in the early hours of 26 November..alone in Langley Green hospital.
I asked for him to be taken into hospital for his own safety and it was whilst in a place of 'safety' that he died.
Benjamin is so very loved and so desperately missed and will always be remembered by his family and friends.
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Thoughts
This time of year will always be changed for you not being here. But the music never stops and we do transcend human form. Even if only in other people's hearts and minds you do live on, even before you were truly gone. We miss you buddy, always will
Dylan
29th November 2015
(Wrote this a few days before you birthday last year, thinking of you then and thinking of you know buddy XxxXxxX)
In Absentia
Just because we cannot see you
Doesn't mean we have not in our minds eye
Just because we cannot hear you
Doesn't do not where memories lie
Just because we cannot speak to you
Doesn't mean all hopes of fresh conversation die
Just because you are alone
Doesn't mean you shouldn't ever come home
Your friends are waiting and we mean you no harm
There is no reason to feel fear, anger, or alarm
We wait to see our friend again with open arms, and open hearts to boot
For we know you've been through hell
From your head down to your foot
And in you you've lost all sense of calm
You swam with demons at the funny farm
He was a comrade whom I had; there are no better. He remains in my mind, and the enemy will never be forgiven. The "enemy" was his mistake in playing. Let him play again, in some other way, and let him be happy.
To my dear lost and alone friend Benjamin James Arabin dogged by dark shapes, silhottes, and phantoms never there. Happ Birhday comrade, with love and affection.
19/01/14
Alexandra
29th November 2015
Miss you all the time Ben, thoughts with your family today xxx
Tasha
29th November 2015
Candles
The drs murdered you. You were the hpd heyoka empath I will never stop fighting for real justice sorry I did not support you enough when you were alive I know why you talk to me now for a better nhs not a guinea pig lab. I write your name all over the hospitals they take it down. We will work together for the ones that still have a chance. I cured my body dismorthia I wish I could of helped you with yours you are beautiful inside and out sorry for getting you messed up on drugs I just wanted the good times to last I keep coming back to the hospital they know I'm there for buisness no money will stop me changing it you were rage against the machine and I was system of a down miss you so much brother you would of gone far in life sorry we did not understand at the time I know you watch over me. One more light 123
Lit on 2nd June 2024
Happy Birthday Ben! Have been thinking about you a lot recently. Remember when we kicked a random piece of wood from school to my house on the day we broke up for the summer holidays? Well I still have it! I keep it next to my guitar amp, it reminds me to play more o.0 love and miss you xxx
Lit by Willow on 23rd January 2024
Thinking of you today and always. missing and loving you forever.
Xxxxx
Lit by Kady on 29th November 2021
